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Sep 10, 2023Liked by Karen Friend Smith

What makes me feel better? Spending time with friends and laughing!!

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Yes! The best!!

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Sep 11, 2023Liked by Karen Friend Smith

Another Lift success - My secret sauce is laughter along with connecting with my tribe!❤️🤗

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Yes! Laughter & connection….good stuff!!

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That's a great idea Karen! Check ins really help rewire our brains for success. I do that also to determine what kind of exercise I need in the morning. I also think we overestimate motivation and underestimate the power of inner work! I wrote about this combo for health of checking in and then doing the habits that feel good rather than pushing ourselves beyond what is meaningful to us. Great post.

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Thanks for sharing Omar. It works for so many things. And there's that fine line between moving forward with the action even when you don't feel like it...and knowing when that action isn't what you need. Appreciate your comments!

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Excellent advice. Except. When what works for you for decades suddenly stops. And you don't know why or how to make it better.

I'm at that juncture now. I've revamped my eating. Which is really difficult. How did I absolutely love eating spinach only to find now I can't stand the sight of it? Or how did I hate nuts only to find today I can't stop devouring them. I've lifted weights with excellent results all my life until recently. I can't seem to build and maintain muscle. I'm almost 66. Things used to change subtly... be prepared. At some point these changes will be dramatic and leave you writhing on the floor asking yourself what happened??

There is no blueprint on aging... so we do the best we can with what we have and learn to go from there... but I'd live a day where things improve dramatically and stay that way... if only for a while. Great read!

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I hear you Patti! Menopause is no joke when it comes to really drastic changes in our bodies & even the things we like/dislike on other levels as well. Nothing is the same & it requires so much rebuilding of ourselves. Little by little. 'Rebuilding' isn't really the right word...because that implies going backward....as if we are going to be that version of ourselves again & we never will. I agree, there is no blueprint. But, learning to listen to ourselves every day...and following those whispers...keeps us moving forward & growing. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I completely know what you're talking about. And, I know you have wisdom in your age that I don't have yet. So, believe me - I listen! :)

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I'm happy things are moving in the right direction for you. I'm battling and accepting change as best as I can. Now... for that wisdom... sometimes it's better to punt and see where it lands. Happy Friday!

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It is all a big experiment! :) I hope you don't mind, but I'm using your comment as a jumping off point for this week's LIFT (along with a link to your substack). I just love the door it opens because this stage really requires us to get to know ourselves again. And what you express is something so many women feel - that frustration of not knowing what to do & how nothing works. We have to recognize we are not the same & re-write everything. New body. New approach. Relentless change.

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I don't mind at all. I'm honored. Bur more importantly I hope what I'm going through at my age will help those your age prepare. I don't remember any of the women in my family going through such drastic changes as I am experiencing. My friends and other women my age I've shared with are experiencing the same thing. Evolution? I love your newsletter and dedication to sharing health and change.

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It is so important…sharing between generations & across ages for all of those reasons. And I agree about the changes being so much more drastic. With all I have learned the last few years about environmental health, I feel it is having a huge impact on women in menopause. We have some studies, but not enough. Some day women will be educated about reducing their exposures to endocrine disrupting chemicals during this stage & preparing their bodies to help avoid these drastic changes. Having these conversations is so important because we can’t tell what’s better or worse if we aren’t talking about it and sharing those details with each other.

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Hormone disruptions from chemicals are absolutely one of the drivers of discomfort, weight gain, and for lack of a better description, the crazy side of changing.

I'm grateful you are opening doors and a platform for discussion. Information and sharing are key while we wait (impatiently) for the medical community to make discoveries. Medical advances are wonderful but reach a tipping point if we're in distress... quality is key for living a radiantly inspired life, which is my personal motto.

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